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OWNING YOUR WORLDVIEW

I personally feel that your worldview is very different from your worldview in childhood. As I moved from dependence to independence external forces taught me lessons about the importance of standing on my principals on things I felt were morally right and others that I needed to change to continue to grow in a positive direction. As a child I was very selfish and filtered my words and actions based on how I alone was affected.

As the world taught me the lessons of life I was forced to reflect on how my actions affected others. I learned to step back from my strong opinions and compromise to give validation to the feelings of others. My children and husband were big influences on my actions and decisions. I not only began to filter my decisions through what was best for me to what would be best for my family unit. My relationship with my parents evolved from one of commands and obeying to one of respect and admiration of dealing with adult issues. I watched adults I admired and emulated their actions to achieve similar outcomes.

Once I left my neighborhood and moved into a world where race, religions, traditions, backgrounds were very different from my own I learned how diverse the world is. As my understanding of personal relationships evolved, even in early adulthood, I became more understanding and patient of my coworkers and classmates. As I gain more education, meet more diverse people, and live in different areas my worldview expands and I become a better person.

I have a hard time understanding worldviews that are very different from my own. Worldviews based solely on religion, traditions, and social classes are the ones I find most difficult. Discrimination, exclusion, and persecution upheld by scripture are the hardest for me to process. I feel that if you try hard enough you can find an easy justification for doing what you want. Many of the values we discussed in module 1 such as basic moral values and the theory of obligation are easier for me to justify. I believe that we should look at the actions displayed and try not to judge the person, because in most cases we will not fully know the full back-story. Through my daily evolution I have learned that it is almost impossible to know a person’s intentions and/or motives.

Even if I don’t agree with a person’s worldview I try not to rush to judgment. Using religious text and traditions to justify actions is a cop out and does not make the person explain the real reasons for their actions. Although our upbringing accounts for a large part of how we process situations, I also believe it is the responsibility of the individual to continue to grow, allowing for the formation of their moral center. I like for the individual to explain in some detail as to why they feel a certain way and how those opinions came to be. I usually like to hear about their upbringing (how they were raised and what their family unit looked like), what role religion play in their life and whether they blame or use it to justify negative actions, and finally listening to their personal story (how they fell about themselves and their sense of accomplishment or lack thereof). These pieces of information help me process the “why” because I feel that their actions are filtered through these individual pieces.
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It seems that many others have encountered this same problem. Stephen Covey writes in the forward of Insights on Leadership, "The more I study and try to apply the principle of servant leadership, the more I am inspired by the power of the individual as the programmer" (pg. xvii). I feel that you are paramount to the transformation of the status quo. I agree that this change has to happen from the inside out. Your mere presence is forcing transformations; you are responsible for the enlightenment of those with whom you connect. On page 61, Insight on Leadership tells us that, "The good news, however, is that the barriers you encounter will provide you with both an opportunity to test your skills and a focal point toward which to direct your energies".


We have read in our lectures in this program that servant-leadership is not for the weak. It takes hard work, a strong heart, and perseverance. Your will and strength will be tested and you we feel like the barriers are just too big to be changed by so few. Be inspired by knowing, "Thus naming, claiming, and reframing the barriers you encounter are necessary and important steps on your journey."
I hope these words help to strengthen you. That said, I do not think that you should stay in a company that is unhealthy for you. I have also learned that a servant leader will find such discomfort in their present situation that they cannot stay. Leaving an unhealthy situation is not defeat - it's growth!

Spears, L. (Ed.). (1998). Insights on leadership: Service, stewardship, spirit, and servant-
leadership. New York: John Wiley & Sons.